I am a housewife. A happy one. Or, homemaker, if you please.
I cook, clean, do the laundry, raise the children, and – Oh Yeah! – we homeschool too. I love it for sure, and I am very much aware of how lucky I am to be in this position instead of leaving my house to go to work every day. I get to wake up and do the one thing I want to do most ! Yes, I am blessed.
But a strange thing happened to me over the years…a syndrome, of sorts. I wasn’t aware of it, but I knew I wasn’t the same as when I had first gotten married. Thankfully, though, I have made a full recovery! Dr Laura, in The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands describes it this way:
“After marriage, and definitely after having children, too many wives contract the ‘Frump syndrome,” the symptoms of which include…”
- flannel pants & fuzzy socks
- or sweatpants with oversized T-shirts
to bed, instead of some girlie thing with lace…” You know, we shouldn’t be wearing these things in the evening, ladies!
If you can’t manage lace, at least aim for something like this:
Don’t get me wrong, I love my sweats and fuzzy socks, but I much prefer being the object of my husband’s attention instead! ;)
Back to the book…Other symptoms of “Frump syndrome” may include …”not shaving legs or grooming nails; not washing, styling or even combing hair; and taking off (instead of freshening up) makeup from the day just before your husband comes home…”
We need more of these, girls ;):
Yes, we’re tired. Heck, you might very well be exhausted! I’m willing to bet he is too. But then, think of what a sight for sore eyes you are, feminine as can be, with a smile for your man when he walks through the door! My experience has been really amazing with this. It never fails – when I am happy, pleasant, and took a little bit of time on my appearance, my husband shows how he appreciates it. He is more affectionate and complimentary, and it seems to put him in a better mood almost instantly. He is HAPPY to be home!
A woman wrote in to Dr. Laura’s radio show, saying “Women expect to be wooed yet be allowed to look haggish and frumpy. It’s hard to romance a hag and come off as being sincere.”
In chapter 6, entitled What’s Sex?, the author says, “It might seem that I’m suggesting that men are totally superficial, requiring that their wives look like Playboy centerfolds, and while that’s a popular stereotype, my research in preparation for this book demonstrates otherwise. It’s not ‘absolute perfection’ that men desire from their wives (although a “10” walking by will get any man’s attention); it’s the effort the wives put in to pleasing their men that seems to make the most impact. That’s not a superficial concept. It means that men appreciate that their wives care about their ‘male nature’,
which responds dramatically to visual stimulation.”
One husband wrote to Dr. Laura, saying, among other things, that men “…like normal, naturally shaped women” and “Husbands have an intrinsic need to enjoy their wives’ bodies ‘visually’ for their emotional well-being.”
She says, “Frankly, men like to look at their wives’ bodies naked…see them in something sexy. Men need this visual excitement, and they should get it from their wives…”
There is much more on the subject, but for now, take care of yourself. You (and your hubby) will be glad you did!
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